The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.”
–Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
I saw this quote on one of my favorite blogs today. If you have not visited Vegemitevix and her insightful, hilarious, and beautiful spot in cyberspace you must dash on over immediately and check it out. Her post got me thinking about motherhood and all the ways it’s changed me.
Motherhood is one of the most amazing and perplexing experiences imaginable. It is one of the most, if not the most, important thing we will ever do in our lives. Yet it is the one wracked with the most controversy. There are so many opposing parenting theories and differing notions about childrearing. No matter what a stellar job you do, no one is ever going to give you an award that tells you that you have successfully completed the motherhood mission. And yet, we have the most incredible prize of all right here in front of us all the time—our own beautiful children.
When we give birth, we are given an opportunity. Through the eyes of our children, the world is made new again. We are given a fresh look at the many universes of experience, and with that a fresh perspective. We are launched suddenly and deeply into the primal experience of trying to comprehend what it means to be human.
When we create new life and bring it into this world, we can no longer passively live. We can no longer sit back and feel casually detached from the things we see happening around us. We have to make active choices about how to reject, accept, or attempt to change the culture and society around us.
The experiences of pregnancy and birth are the first two steps in the mothership journey. The awareness of the life inside of us causes us to awaken anew and consider our greater purpose. The choices we make for our unborn children are the first of many choices we will make in the tiny universe of our family. I do not pretend to have all the answers. I do not even believe in exact answers when considering something as slippery and imprecise as motherhood.
But I do know this. We are mothers. We want what is best for our children. And we will do whatever it takes to achieve this. More than anything, we need to trust ourselves and hold tight to the cord of our primal wisdom. This quiet voice inside ourselves is the small gift we have been given.